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PROJECT SAVE CHRISTMAS
Dear Santa
Inspired by the tongue and cheek commentary of Jim Durfee at FRAMED ( Fathers Rights and Men Ending Discrimination ) below, Fathers 4 Justice Canada launches Project Save Christmas.
Jim's blog entry and link is included below.
This Christmas we are asking every father, mother and child to send Santa Claus a letter
SANTA CLAUS
NORTH POLE
H0H 0H0
CANADA
or Email at
Tell him you are from Project Save Christmas and the spirit of Christmas is being destroyed. Let Santa know all we want for Christmas is Equal Parenting.
The politicians aren't listening and are too busy chasing each other's tails.
Our children require action now to save Christmas!
BREAKING NEWS!
[Note: In these difficult economic times and with Christmas fast approaching, I was astonished to learn during my latest trip to the north pole that even up there they were suffering economic hardships. Surprisingly and to my amazement, it is not the high cost of fuel and food prices, wall street corruption, and the failing housing market, it is actually the domino effect of the biased and criminal Family Court rulings around the world that are causing difficulties at the North Pole. I thought it would be important that I wrote an article about my visit there and the economic stress Family Courts are causing not only in their economy at the North Pole, but also how it is threatening the meaning of Christmas as we know it.]
Santa Declares Family Courts are Destroying Children, Families, and Christmas!
By PrancnWolf,
As the destruction of families is increasing in America and around the world due to the family court systems, Santa has declared a worldwide emergency and crisis. Santa has stated that not only is his Toy Factory in danger of being shut down, Christmas itself is being threatened of actually becoming a day of sadness instead of a day of joy.
Santa has also firmly stated that due to the negative impact on children by family courts and single parent households, there is a chilling rise in the number of naughty children around the world and societies are in danger of becoming totally frozen in chaos. Santa claims that the Family Courts are causing a negative "snowball effect" when it comes to the stability and happiness in the families and children of the world today.
Santa emphasized that Fatherless children and homes are one of the leading causes of these breakdowns in society and the alarming rise in numbers of naughty children. He also mentions that Motherless homes are on the rise too and that no single parent home regardless of the parent’s gender is a healthy situation for any child. Santa also states that as some mothers lose custody, it is the fathers that have their children taken away from them in the majority of all custody disputes throughout the developed world. Santa believes that the Family Courts are one reason behind this destruction of the family.
Santa goes on to say:
"Children from fatherless homes account for:
· 63% of youth suicides. (Source: US Dept. of Health & Human Services, Bureau of the Census).
· 71% of pregnant teenagers. (Source: US Dept. of Health & Human Services)
· 90% of all homeless and runaway children.
·70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988)
· 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders. (Source: Center for Disease Control).
· 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger. (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol. 14, p. 403-26, 1978).
· 71% of all high school dropouts. (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools).
· 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers. (Source: Rainbows for all God`s Children).
· 85% of all youths sitting in prisons. (Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992).
"And The State of Fatherhood," Santa continued,
· 37.9% of fathers have no access/visitation rights. (Source: p.6, col.II, para. 6, lines 4 & 5, Census Bureau P-60, #173, Sept 1991.)
· "40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the non-custodial father's visitation on at least one occasion, to punish the ex-spouse." (Source: p. 449, col. II, lines 3-6, (citing Fulton) Frequency of visitation by Divorced Fathers; Differences in Reports by Fathers and Mothers. Sanford Braver et al, Am. J. of Orthopsychiatry, 1991.)
· "Overall, approximately 50% of mothers "see no value in the father`s continued contact with his children...." (Source: Surviving the Breakup, Joan Kelly & Judith Wallerstein, p. 125)
·Only 11% of mothers value their husband's input when it comes to handling problems with their kids. Teachers & doctors rated 45%, and close friends & relatives rated 16%.(Source: EDK Associates survey of 500 women for Redbook Magazine. Redbook, November 1994, p. 36)
·"The former spouse (mother) was the greatest obstacle to having more frequent contact with the children." (Source: Increasing our understanding of fathers who have infrequent contact with their children, James Dudley, Family Relations, Vol. 4, p. 281, July 1991.)
·"A clear majority (70%) of fathers felt that they had too little time with their children." (Source: Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Mary Ann Kock & Carol Lowery, Journal of Divorce, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 54, Winter 1984.)
·"Very few of the children were satisfied with the amount of contact with their fathers, after divorce." (Source: Visitation and the Noncustodial Father, Koch & Lowery, Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, Vol. 8, No. 2, p. 50, Winter 1984.)
·"Feelings of anger towards their former spouses hindered effective involvement on the part of fathers; angry mothers would sometimes sabotage father's efforts to visit their children." (Source: Ahrons and Miller, Am. Journal of Orthopsychiatry, Vol. 63. p. 442, July `93.)
·"Mothers may prevent visits to retaliate against fathers for problems in their marital or post-marital relationship." (Source: Seltzer, Shaeffer & Charing, Journal of Marriage & the Family, Vol. 51, p. 1015, November 1989.)
·In a study: "Visitational Interference - A National Study" by Ms. J Annette Vanini, M.S.W. and Edward Nichols, M.S.W., it was found that 77% of non-custodial fathers are NOT able to "visit" their children, as ordered by the court, as a result of "visitation interference" perpetuated by the custodial parent. In other words, non-compliance with court ordered visitation is three times the problem of non-compliance with court ordered child support and impacts the children of divorce even more. Originally published Sept. 1992
….and this is just the tip of the iceberg (no pun intended)" Santa said, with tears running down his face and turning into icicles.
Recently, Santa organized a rather large group of Elves to do research as to what is exactly causing these family courts to be so inhumane and damaging to families and children. Santa informed these Elves that the Toy Factory was 2 nd in priority to them now and that without happy children and families, the toy factory and Christmas would become irrelevant. Therefore, getting to the root cause of the problem was their #1 priority. The Elves in charge of the study began to call themselves, "Elves Love Families" or E.L.F. and Santa termed the research and study, "Operation – Families Matter"
Santa and the "E.L.F." group have released some of the data that they have come across and a full report is due for publication early in 2009.
Some of their findings in American and around the world are:
The Federal Government and governments around the world are using men, women, and children as currency for funding outrageous and illegal government programs.
That we as a society are behaving more immorally and unethical, and that we have lost the true meaning for marriage and family.
Dangerous and damaging loopholes involved with certain programs, such as the "No Fault Divorce" and "The Violence Against Women Act" programs; the divorce industry in general.
The lack of parents and society as a whole being able to stand up and demand that their rights be honored and not trampled on, or completely taken away from them, their families, and their children.
Judges, Attorneys, and the Divorce Industry have systematically taken the rights and responsibility to parent, away from the parents.
The Constitution is not working as it should and the Bill of Rights is continually neglected and ignored.
Federal incentive programs and government profits have become more important (priority) rather than what is in the best interest of families and children.
….the findings go on and on!
The brief also goes on to list certain articles already in the mainstream media. Santa was heard saying concerning these articles; "I cannot believe all these people are knowingly allowing this injustice to happen, I am totally saddened and ashamed."
Federal Incentives Make Children Fatherless
http://www.eagleforum.org/column/2005/may05/05-05-11.html STEPHEN BASKERVILLE, PhD – Articles & Studies
http://stephenbaskerville.net/articles-categorized.htm
Gender Bias in our Family Court System
http://www.fathermag.com/808/GenderBias.shtml
The Federal Scheme to destroy Father-Child Relationships
http://www.nolanchart.com/article2699.html
A quick "Google" search will show that thousands more of these type of articles are available.
Santa was also heard saying in anger, "…and I thought stepping in the yellow snow was messy, this injustice happening to families and children is like having your face rubbed in yellow snow…and then choking on it." Santa went on to say, "If something isn’t done soon to stop and/or reform these devastating laws and programs, I am afraid soon there will be no more Christmas’s to celebrate. The destruction of Children and Families will escalate and could easily become the largest human crisis in the history of mankind."
As Santa is faced with laying off more Elves again this year and the possibility of the end of Christmas, as we know it, the destruction of Children and Families must stop! Many unemployed Elves are now working in secret with some parental right’s groups and are saying that some progress is being made, but not enough and not fast enough. An Elf who wishes to remain anonymous for fear of his life has stated, "Some of us Elves are trying to infiltrate the highest offices of government and work to change these destructive laws and programs." Many Elves have also stated that no matter how many of them try to help bring about change, they cannot do it alone. They are asking for your help and for you to get involved.
One Elf named TickTock said, "After becoming unemployed I spent weeks sitting on my toy box watching the clock. I was acting like a victim and feeling sorry for myself. It was only after learning how many parents and children were in pain and going through injustice that I realized drowning in my own tears would not help a thing." TickTock went onto say while looking at his watch and the clock on the wall numerous times, "I am now involved in the reforming of family law and my life has taken a new direction. I am taking my skill of assembling toys and turning it into a tool to disassemble laws that destroy families!" Strangely, I noticed that TickTock and a couple of other Elves had airline tickets to Washington D.C. They were also packing numerous disguises to blend into the Washington crowd of lawmakers….
Santa showed great leadership abilities and had a well-disciplined and dedicated chain of command with his Elves, also a well laid out plan of action. Many of the "soldier Elves" looked as though they were preparing for a serious battle. They were all working together and not a sense of egotistic bickering or fear could be seen among them. Surprisingly, they seemed to be much more organized than most, if not all, Father’s and Parental rights groups and organizations in the "lower 48" and around the rest of the world. Who would of thought that a group of toy-making Elves could be this determined?
As we all wonder about how many parents will be without their children this Christmas, and how many children without one parent or the other, we should be deeply saddened. This is not how it should to be, children deserve both fit parents! Children that are kidnapped unjustly for profit, from one fit parent, is abuse and inhumane to say the least. It’s not just about two parents putting aside their differences; it’s about the children having the opportunity to have access to both fit and loving parents to enhance their quality of life and their future. It would enhance the quality of life and the future for all of us.
We need to unite folk’s and save our Families and Children. These Elves should be an inspiration to us! Remember, they cannot do this alone! We as parents are most responsible for action that is for the best interest of our children and families. These Elves can only walk and fight beside us. Get involved today, not tomorrow. If Santa and the Elves can help fight for our rights to be parents and for the rights of our children, so can YOU!!!! So can WE!!!! Together it will be our families and children that will prevail!!!! Not the greedy, inhumane, family destroying profiteers!
GET INVOLVED!!!!
Help Save our Children! Help Save our Families! Help Save Christmas!
Permission to repost granted courtesy of Jim Durfee of FRAMED
Letters to Santa
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Media
December 16, 2008
SANTA CLAUS
NORTH POLE
H0H 0H0
CANADA
Dear Santa:
Three and a half years ago on June 8, 2005 my children were torn from me and I did not find them for 7 months. Christmas in 2005 was the loneliest day of my life. I cried and cried for their presence but it was not to happen. For the past 3.5 years, due to the winner-take-all adversarial “no fault” court process I have been fighting to regain my equality as a parent in their lives. It is a very expensive process that is not yet over and the only winners will be the lawyers who keep bringing their customers to court instead of doing the right thing and keeping both parents in the children’s lives on an equal basis. I will be living below the poverty line after it is all over and likely be homeless. Equality by definition means just that except in our family court. Instead of the best interest of the children it is confrontation after confrontation through the court to win back the God given gift of fatherhood and parenthood that my government has taken away from me to the detriment of the health and well being of my children. All studies point to the fact children do far better in all situations when both parents remain in their lives equally. Ten years ago, on December 9, 1998 a report was filed to the then Liberal Government of Mr. Chrétien entitled “For the sake of the Children”. It can be viewed here. http://www2.parl.gc.ca/HousePublications/Publication.aspx?DocId=1031529&Language=E&Mode=1&Parl=36&Ses=1&File=6 In it was recommended a new way of dealing with the end of marriage by which there would be a presumption of shared parenting. Australia introduced it in 2006 and some U.S. states have added it since, including Florida on October 1, 2008. Canada has not acted on this recommendation. The spirit of Christmas is being eroded from the lives of thousands of families and I would wish you to help bring about changes to give us Equal and Shared Parenting for all affected Mom’s and Dad’s for Christmas. It will help to bring some joy back to this wonderful celebration of giving and that is indeed in the best interest of our children. Michael Murphy A sad but optimistic dad. Fathers 4 Justice Old Garden River Rd.
Mike's letter was published in the Sault Star here:
A WISH FOR ALL CHILDREN
Dear Father Christmas:
Through all the years that you have been Father Christmas you must have witnessed a lot of change in the world. From a time when black people and other races we degraded and not allowed to vote, to the present historical time of a black person being elected into the United States government as the new president. You have seen a time when women weren’t allowed equal rights and how they fought to obtain those equal rights. But there is one thing you have not seen change yet that should be changed. What you have not seen is the right for a father to be valued as an equal parent and have the right to be an equal part of their children’s lives and for that right to be recognized by the courts, police, family services (Children’s Aid society) and other governmental departments. There are fathers all over the world who wish to be recognized as an equal parent and treated as one, but do to the ignorance of the court system and some government departments; they are nowhere near as being regarded equal to a mother. Currently a father has to prove he is capable of parenting his child, whereas a mother is assume capable and has to be proven otherwise. This is clearly gender bias towards men in which the rights of a father is violated, but more important the rights and well being of children are being compromised. If a child is denied the benefits of equal parenting it can greatly affect there lives is many negative ways. With the passing of time you have witnessed some of our society’s values and beliefs change. With those changes you have also seen a change is some of our laws to better improve our society as a whole. It is now time to revise and improve upon yet another law and that is the law regarding parental and children’s rights. Currently there is a bill introduced that calls on the federal government of Canada to enact a shared/equal parenting presumption. That bill is Bill M483. My wish this Christmas is one that is not a wish for me but more importantly a wish for all children . That wish is for the federal government to recognize the importants of Bill M 483 and change the laws to better improve them, so children can have the joy and benefits of equal parenting.
Merry Christmas and may all children have a wonderful Holiday with their family and friends.
Yours truly,
Jeff Butt
Clarenville,NL
My partner and I had a rude awakening when we became a couple and attempted to provide our children with a loving, nurturing family environment.
Due to our flawed Family Law System we have been forced into living an emotional nightmare from Hell, simply because we wanted more time with our children - equal parenting. When did we, society as a whole, stop caring about the emotional well being of our children?
I am a divorced woman and I never stepped foot inside a Family court room. We divorced, we agreed to put the best interest of our children first and life went on.
My ex-husband re-married a wonderful woman that loved and nurtured my children and I loved her for loving my children. My children are now wonderful, loving adults. I have three beautiful grand children with number four on the way.
I met my partner (Spiderman) in 2005, two years after his family breakup. And that was when I was introduced to the flawed Family Law System. And sadly, this flawed Family Law System of ours is greatly affecting our future with the emotional turmoil it has forced upon our innocent children of divorce; emotional turmoil forced upon the non-custodial parent.
Financial turmoil forced upon the non-custodial parent. We have to spend thousands and thousands of dollars fighting for our children's rights as well as our own human rights. To the corporation of Divorced with Children where the Non-Custodial Parents have no rights. Health turmoil forced upon the non-custodial parent. Stress related, constantly having to prove our innocence is very stressful. Guilty until proven innocent. Collapse. Depression. Ulcers. Stress induced asthmas and it just keeps going and going and going.
The "System" is not working. The "System" is destroying children, and families. The "System" is failing to protect and to defend, our innocent
children of divorce. The "System" is tragically failing the Non-Custodial Parent.
So, again I ask you, when did this happen? And more importantly, why is it still happening?
Please help us, help all innocent children of divorce, by showing your support for ÒEqual ParentingÓ by visiting our website www.Fathers-4-Justice-Canada.caand then follow the link Project Save Christmas! This Christmas we are asking every father, mother and child to send Santa Claus a letter. Tell him you are from Project Save Christmas and the spirit of Christmas is being destroyed. Let Santa know all we want for Christmas is Equal Parenting. Cc: your politician and the political leaders. Our children require action now to save Christmas!
Wishing you all a safe and happy-family holiday season.
Paulette Macdonald,
Alliston
Paulette's letter was published in the New Tecumseh Free Press here:
Dear Santa
I am writing to you from Project Save Christmas to ask for a Christmas miracle for my children and thousands of others, the kind that only Santa can make.
For 35 years I wished for my Dad for Christmas. This year my wish was granted, but so many others wish for the same thing year after year. It's time to answer them Santa.
Canada has lost its Christmas spirit. Thousands of children and parents will not have joy this season as they will be kept separated by a family law system that makes money off of their tears and heartache. Can't you hear the crying?
Please Santa, for the sake of my sons and all Canadian children, grant this heartfelt Christmas Wish for Truth, justice and equal parenting in Canada.
Help us Save Christmas!
Sincerely;
Kris Titus
on behalf of Shawn and Josh
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